“The hardest thing about my parents being divorced is not being able to see the other parent.” – Mac, Children and Divorce film participant
In Children and Divorce, we learn how challenging it can be for kids to go back and forth between homes. Macy shares that she doesn’t see her dad a lot. However, it helps to talk to her dad on the phone almost every day. Brynn spends most of her time at her mother’s house, so it’s “different” at her dad’s house. Mac’s schedule for spending time with family is two days with his mom, two days with his dad, followed by five days with his mom and five days with his dad. Then the schedule repeats. Both Mac and Sammy said one of the hardest parts of going back and forth is packing up things they need and taking them from house to house. Sammy said he sometimes forgets things and they have to drive back to the other parent’s house to get them.
After hearing these stories of going back and forth, we decided at Professor Child to create an exercise that would give kids a say in how, where and when they would spend their time. We thought it would be interesting to ask children to create their perfect “back and forth” schedule. What would it look like? The following is an exercise from the Children and Divorce workbook.
Wouldn’t it be interesting to ask your child to complete the schedule?
Pretend you have the authority to decide the perfect “back and forth” schedule. Fill in what it would look like. Don’t forget to add in the times when you will switch back to the other parent’s house. Sometimes kids don’t want to switch back and forth. If you feel this way, write it on the schedule.
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