Review from the School Library Journal, February 2013
We are pleased to have had such a favorable review written in the School Library Journal, February 2013 about Children & Divorce.
Eight elementary school-age children whose parents have divorced respond to a variety of prompts posed in this video. Most of them are far enough away from the time of the divorce to have developed a more mature perspective about it. The producers understood that children have much to teach their contemporaries about what has happened to them and their families, and have let them share their experiences, both good and bad, and offer advice to other kids and to parents. Some of the prompts included are biggest worries, caught in the middle, what has changed since the divorce, things that help, and hopes and dreams. The 32-page workbook that can be downloaded for the website offers many discussion questions and opportunities to draw and write. The video and workbook may be used in a group or individual counseling session over a period of many days or weeks; it shouldn’t be viewed in its entirety in one sitting. The video may also be downloaded from the website.
– Ann Brownson, Eastern Illinois University, Charleston
Review from Teresa Costa, clinical psychologist.
I have used the Divorce video and it really helped the children to open up and discuss some of the issues. I learned more from them that day than I had over several months of therapy. Thank you.
Review from Local Views and Events in Central Oregon by 17-year-old Kyle Van Gordon.
When parents go through a divorce, I get frustrated when they (and everyone around them) only see the parents going through the divorce. Kids go through any traumatic events just like an adult, and no amount of assertion that they shouldn’t be involved will change that. Adults can get so high on their pedestals supporting one side that they forget the kids suffering in between- and that’s not right.
That is why I liked Children & Divorce because it stepped back from the often overplayed drama divorcing parents, and instead focused on how the children of such parents fought through their short-term tragedies and long-term adversities.
As a 17 year old dealing with the hardship of divorced parents, I can relate to their feelings of the children in “Children & Divorce”, and even find similarities in their experiences compared to mine. I did feel that the intended audience of Children & Divorce was too young for me, perhaps divorce when the kids are older is atypical. Either way, Children & Divorce was designed for the younger set, what with its upbeat music, chalkboard graphics, and easy-to-understand, elementary advice. But what Children & Divorce does for younger kids, it does very well. The advice offered from kids to kids going through divorce is innocent, honest, and encouraging. It’s also quite informative- teaching kids that there are others in the same situation elsewhere in the world, and teaching parents that it’s the kids who matter, not their own selfish desires. Watch this video, then show it to your children when they’re ready- no use pounding and compounding emotional topics on them in the early stages of the divorce.
My final message, this time to kids: there will come a day when you need your parents. Even if you hate them now, keep them close, and protect your siblings. And keep optimism: Life has its ups and downs, but if you focus on the ups, there’s less downs.
Review from the Oregon Mediation Association
Mediators have the sometimes challenging job of developing an agreed upon parenting plan for children and families. “Children and Divorce”, a unique film produced by Professor Child, is helping parents understand what children experience during divorce, but may not feel comfortable communicating to their parents. The film and the accompanying workbook encourage discussions between children and their parents. Professor Child believes if parents watch this film, they will become more aware of children’s needs during the divorce process. If parents listen to the children’s advice, they are more likely to work with each other and in turn, help the mediation process.
In the documentary-style film, eight children come together to share their divorce stories. “What’s different about this film is the idea of allowing children to teach others by sharing their stories without clinical messages or adult advice,” said Sharon Richards, co-founder of Professor Child. “We have heard from mediators, therapists and parents about the importance of using this film as a tool to help families throughout the divorce process.”
The Professor Child project was inspired by co-founder Jenni O’Keefe’s unsuccessful search for positive, healing tools for a young family member who had been struggling with grief and divorce. She wanted to find a way to instill a sense of hope and healing for kids. “I knew there was an opportunity to create something special,” said O’Keefe. After partnering with co-founders Sharon Richards, a mental health counselor, and Rory Kidder, a former public school teacher, Professor Child was launched with the main focus of children teaching children by sharing their personal stories.
Film viewers hear how children define divorce, what it means to them, how they heard the news, and their biggest worries. They share what it’s like to go back and forth between homes and what their parents’ relationships are like post- divorce. Viewers hear what has helped the children, what advice the children have for other kids and parents, and what gives them hope. The children are honest, brave and courageous in their storytelling and will leave you feeling inspired.
“Our goal was to have children teach children about divorce, but what we’ve learned from parents, teachers, therapists and mediators who have purchased the film, is that children can teach children and adults,” said O’Keefe.
Danielle Randolph, a divorced parent who recently viewed the film said, “Even though this is obviously geared toward children, I think it would be an eye opener to divorcing and divorced parents.” Randolph goes on to share, “The advice to parents was one of my favorite chapters because it really points out things that adults don’t consider…like how to tell their kids they are getting divorced, or to remember to reassure their children that it’s not their fault…and not to use their children as a go between.”
Brie Cutlip, a divorced parent, watched the film with her children and said, “After watching the film, it seemed like my step-kids felt some relief from having seen other kids asking questions that they had themselves, it helped them to realize they are not alone in how they feel and that children go through this everyday. Divorce can leave children with unanswered questions and sometimes feeling as if they are the reason. Does that mean as parents we should stay in a marriage for the children? Not at all, but by watching this film, you can understand how your children may be feeling and how you can help them to understand and feel loved throughout the divorce process.”
Professor Child hopes mediators will benefit by watching this film and recommend it to their clients who may need it most. Affordably priced ($34.99), the film comes with a free corresponding workbook with many discussion questions and creative exercises that encourage the healing process for both parents and children. “It is a company mission that we keep all our products affordable so as many families and children can access the tools as possible,” said Sharon Richards.
Review from Ruth Hill on the blog www.mydevotionalthoughts.com
I am a victim of a divorced family (even though my parents did remarry each other, but that’s another story). Unfortunately, my daughter is also a victim of divorce since I had no choice but to divorce for our protection, but that is also another story. Divorce is something that affects almost everyone at some point in their lives whether directly or indirectly. In my daughter’s case, she doesn’t even remember her dad, but it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t affect her. She has actually been mad at me in the past for divorcing her dad because it means that she is not like everyone else in her class. They all have dads, and she doesn’t. She is now 9 1/2, and she sometimes goes through struggles that are similar to how I felt when my parents were divorced. I do empathize with her.
I want to tell you about a phenomenal film called Children and Divorce: Children Teaching Children About Divorce. It is a great educational film that is put out by Professor Child. It is exactly what it says it is. Children speak candidly about several different aspects of divorce. They are honest, and sometimes quite emotional. So often children are harmed in ways we can’t imagine within the divorce process. Many portions of the film would not relate to my daughter, but I want her to realize that she is not alone. She is not the only child who has experienced divorce, and sometimes she does feel alone.
At this point, my daughter has not seen this video. She has had such a busy schedule, and I haven’ t wanted her to watch this film during the holidays. It just didn’t seem the right time. I do plan to take her through it bit by bit so she can thoroughly absorb it, and we can discuss it. I love the fact that it is only children talking, and you don’t even have adult interaction in the film. The kids are all different ages, and they are willing to tell it like it is. I notice there are other films on the site that deal with subjects such as grief and military families, and I am sure these would be outstanding as well. I invite you to check these out if you and your children have ever experienced any of the issues discussed. I can assure you that you will not be disappointed.
Review from Julie St Thomas on the blog http://tiannascafe.blogspot.com/2013/01/review-children-teaching-children-about.html
Divorce isn’t something that anyone hopes to go through. Unfortunately, almost half of all marriages in the United States today will end in divorce. This process is especially difficult on the children involved. As adults it can be hard to understand how your divorce is affecting your child, and even more difficult to talk about it with them.
This DVD, Children Teaching Children About Divorce from Professor Child, can help you’re children to get this difficult time. In this DVD eight children discuss their thoughts on divorce. They talk about how it changed their lives, what helped them to get through it, what they love about their families now and much more. These children also discuss their hopes and dreams for their future. This DVD can also be beneficial for parents that are considering divorce. By watching it ahead of time it can give you valuable tips on how to approach this topic with your children.
Children Teaching Children About Divorce is available for $34.99 from Professor Child. It also comes with a downloadable 30-page workbook which contains exercises to accompany the DVD. Professor Child is the creation of three mothers that came together with a fundamental belief in empowering children. Their projects focus on challenging events that may arise in a child’s life. Ultimately, they hope to help children now they aren’t alone in their experience and that they can learn from hearing another child’s story.
Review from Brie Williams on the blog http://briesbottomlines.blogspot.com/2012/12/childrenand-divorce-film-review.html
Unfortunately, 50 % of all marriages end in Divorce in the U.S.
So what does that mean to the children? As a parent who has been divorced, I know that it is a hard road, not just as a Parent , but it truly affected my children as well. Although my children are older, my step-children are still fairly young and even though it’s been many years, they still ask questions.
Divorce can leave Children with unanswered questions and sometimes feeling as if they are the reason. Does that mean as Parents we should stay in a marriage for the children? Not at all, but by watching this film, you can understand how your children may be feeling and how you can help them to understand and feel loved throughout the divorce process.
The children and divorce film by Professor Child is a great documentary in which children from all walks of life talk about how they feel with divorce and the questions they have.
Watching the Children and Divorce film, brought back memories for me. I often wondered if my children felt like they caused the divorce or if they thought their siblings caused the divorce, what questions could I have answered to help them through this.
I guess until watching this film, I never thought to wonder if my Children felt like they had lost part of a family. One thing I always remembered was to never say bad things about their dad, and I have carried that through with my step kids as well because that is very important. I ask my step kids how they felt, even though it’s been years, and they are still young and I was surprised by the answers. Our situation is a little atypical because my step children do not have much contact with their mother. They did tell me after they watched this film that at one point they thought it was my fault. That is a common thought when many parents remarry. Children need to understand exactly what is going to happen and be on a schedule and need both parents to continue to be in their lives and show them love and support.
My children say that it is hard for them living back and forth in two different towns, they sometimes feel they have to choose between their parents and their friends.
After we watched the film, I ask my kids to all go through the worksheet with me, My children were a bit older so I’m not sure how much they got out of the film, but my step-children seemed to really have a lot of questions and I was finally able to answer them. They now understand that sometimes with adults, things just do not work out and that they are not responsible for a divorce. I found that they had very ill feelings toward their Mother, and I hope I was able to, with the help of this film, alleviate some of their questions that have been unanswered for so long.
After watching the film, it seemed like my step-kids felt some relief from having seen other kids asking questions that they had themselves, it helped them to realize they are not alone in how they feel and that children go through this everyday.
This film taught all of our children that they never had to feel like they had to choose sides and that the questions they have are important and we are here to answer them the best that we can.
It is important for us, as parents, to not put our children in the middle or make them a messenger in our issues with the other parents.
If you are going through a divorce, I highly recommend watching this film with your kids so you can answer their questions, and help them to understand what is happening without having them feel they are left with unanswered questions.
Review from Danielle Randolph on the blog http://danisuedreams.blogspot.com/2013/01/children-and-divorce-film-review.html
Although no one ever wants or expects they will end up divorcing their partner, unfortunately it’s a fact of life. It’s hard and stressful enough when it’s just 2 people….but when there are children involved it is especially hard. Children and Divorce is a film that looks at 8 children of divorce…from their perspective. It hopes to empower children dealing with the divorce of their parents. I’m a child of divorce and I really wish there had been a film like this for me and my sisters. Children and Divorce: Children Teaching Children about Divorce is a really great tool for parents and children.
In Children and Divorce, eight children come together to share their personal divorce stories. Their stories are unique, yet universal. They describe what divorce means to them, how it has changed their lives, what has helped, what they love most about their families, and much more. Through their journey we hear that divorce is a part of their lives, but does not define them. They get to choose who they are in the end. These children are honest, brave and courageous in their storytelling and will leave you with a feeling of hope. – from Child Professor
ABOUT CHILD PROFESSOR
Child Professor is the brain child of 3 mothers (Rory Kidder, Jenni O’Keefe, and Sharon Richards) who came together with the goal of empowering children through some of life’s difficult moments.
We believe that children have a powerful voice that is relatable, healing and hopeful. Ultimately, we want children to know they are not alone in what they are experiencing and that much can be learned by simply listening to another child’s story.
educational documentary-style films highlight the stories of children in a profound and approachable way. In each film, children share their experience with the specific topic, what has helped, what they’ve learned, and advice for other children. – from Child Professor
Films produced or in production:
* Children and Divorce – Available for purchase in digital format or DVD for $34.99
Review from Jessica Compton on the blog http://jessjourneytosuccess.blogspot.com/2013/01/children-and-divorce-film-review.html
Monkey was only 18 months old when his father and I separated. It has been almost 4 years, but it still affects him in some ways. His father isn’t in the picture, hasn’t called to talk to him, or contacted me to check up on him at all since Easter of last year, and prior to that, it had been 7 months since the last call, and it’s pretty much been like that the whole time.
Monkey has asked a few questions here and there about it all, but doesn’t talk about his father much. When he talks to his friends and they ask him where his Daddy is, he says “Oh, I don’t have one anymore”. I’ve told him where he is, who he is, show him pictures etc.. so he knows he does have a father, but I guess even at the young age of 5, he has decided to just dismiss his relationship with his “Daddy”. I sometimes think it’s harder on me than it is him, but then I take a look at his behavior.
Since we separated, he has acted out. The older he gets, the worse it was getting. For the past year, Mr. has stepped up as the father figure in his life, and has helped me tremendously with his behavior. Monkey looks up to him, calls him his best friend, and that he likes him “whole bunches”.
Mr. has two young children of his own that currently live in Ohio and are now having to deal with all of the separation issues that Monkey has dealt with for a few years. Neither of us knew where to turn to help them all understand what was going on.
That’s where Professor Child came in. They have made a film all about Children and Divorce . The best part? It’s for children, BY children! We all know that children tend to listen to other children better than they do adults, and Professor Child has used that concept to help children that have been affected by divorce. The film has children coming together, sharing their stories about divorce. It helps children understand what divorce is, how it affects them and their lives, and most importantly, that it is NOT THEIR FAULT!
Mr. and I are a bit cautious about what the children watch, so we watched it first. His children will be back down here in 2 months, and at that time, we plan on sitting all 3 of them down and putting on the film. I know there will be a lot of questions, but hopefully they will have a better understanding of the situation and can start to heal.
Thank you Professor Child for your great films!
Review from Cara Leigh on the blog http://www.momontherandom.com/2012/12/review-professor-childs-children-and.html
Who do you think would know best what a child feels like when going through a divorce? Yep, children! I know that when I went through my divorce, we were required by law to take a Children in the Middle Class, but I guarantee that many people who take that class still don’t realize the impact their actions have on their children… fighting in front of them, using them as pawns… it’s very sad.
With this film, instead of adults telling you how you should behave, this chronicles the story of eight children whose parents got divorced. They tell you how they felt before, during and after. They offer advice to other kids AND parents. I think so many parents these days are selfish and can’t put themselves in their kids’ shoes to know how their actions are affecting them. It IS okay to divorce, but there is a right and wrong way to do it and when you have kids, you have to realize the right way.
“In the documentary-style film, Children and Divorce, eight children come together to share their personal divorce stories. Their stories are unique, yet universal. They describe what divorce means to them, how it has changed their lives, what has helped, what they love most about their families, and much more. Through their journey we hear that divorce is a part of their lives, but does not define them. They get to choose who they are in the end. These children are honest, brave and courageous in their storytelling and will leave you with a feeling of hope.”
I thought that the DVD was very insightful! It is broken up into chapters that offer feelings and advice on different aspects of divorce. When used as a teaching tool, the way the chapters are divided up makes it easy to pause and discuss after each chapter. I definitely think this would be great for some kind of group therapy with kids!
Even though the idea behind this is kids teaching kids, I think that adults should watch it too. We can’t see divorce through the eyes of a child, so it is good to hear from them how they really feel. I wish some of the people I know would watch this, because I feel for their kids, who are in the middle. I’m on the fence on whether or not to show it to mine because it has been a couple years since my split with their dad and I don’t want to open old wounds. Maybe my 7 year old would benefit from it.
Anyway, definitely recommend this for parents to watch with their kids- hopefully they can realize that the kids have feelings too and it’s not just about them.
Children and Divorce is the production of Professor Child, developer of educational tools for children experiencing challenging life events.
Professor Child’s educational philosophy is one of children teaching children. Our films are unscripted and the children’s stories are purely their own. Professor Child is the creation of three mothers coming together with a fundamental belief in empowering children. We believe children have a powerful voice that is relatable, healing and hopeful. Ultimately, we want children to know they are not alone in what they are experiencing and that much can be learned by simply listening to another child’s story.
Review from Ruby Ricafrente on the blog http://www.pinaymommyonline.com/review-children-and-divorce-film/
Before I start, I would like to inform everyone that in my country, the Philippines, we don’t have any divorce law here but it doesn’t change the fact that families are splitting through personal decisions, annulment or even by legal separation. Children are always affected thus making us wonder how we could make things better for them.
Aside from that, I am not an avid fan of broken families but as for my personal experience, I am now currently separated and am planning to file an annulment in the near future. This made me want to know how I can help my children cope up with the idea of having their parents separated. Therefore, I was interested to review the product for personal reasons.
For your information, this documentary film, Children and Divorce: Children Teaching Children About Divorce can be purchased at the professorchild.com for only $34.99 which includes a companion workbook available for free download. The workbook contains 30 pages of exercises that match up with the film.
Now the question is… Is it worth the buy? Below is my personal review on the said film:
This documentary film showcases eight children on their thoughts on divorce, how it affected them and how much it changed their lives. These children shared their own divorce stories and even what their hopes are for the future now that their parents are separated.
From these divorce stories of children who went through it, personally, I have learned a lot from them. It let me see how divorce or separation of parents can affect them and if they can really cope up. It made me understand the negative and positive impact it can have on your children and how you can help them understand. It can help you avoid ways on how to act in front of your children as divorce is being talked about and how it will affect them after.
So, would it be worth it? Personally, YES!! I highly recommend this documentary film. It can really help you a lot on how to deal with your children if you are facing divorce anytime soon. I suggest you watch this film before telling your children. It can give you a lot of ideas.
Of course, I am not suggesting for parents to pursue divorce since I still believe that marriage is sacred. As much as possible, save the marriage but if it can’t be helped especially for valid or reasonable causes, this might be one of the tools you might need before plunging into the world of divorce or separation.
Review from Eleanor Aguilar on the blog http://www.justthetipofaniceberg.com/2013/01/children-and-divorce.html
Finally, the much awaited DVD has arrived today. And immediately after, I watched it as I have been dying to do so. I applied to get a free dvd of Children and Divorce because I know Lili and I can get something out of it. But I just have to watch it first before she will do so. I need to know that it can be helpful in answering her questions, though she is not really asking me directly. Besides that, I needed to make sure that she will get a positive view of why 2 people separate, and not blame herself for it. Anyway, what I love about the documentary is that the children of divorced parents were able to share their feelings, their hopes and dreams and even their insights and advises to other children who may be going through a hard time while their parents are separating or in the middle of divorce.  As a parent, I recommend to other parents, whether one is divorced or separated or still together with the partner, to let their children watch this documentary or watch this together with their children. In this way, everyone will be able to understand children of separated or divorced parents in their quest for survival from separation. There is so much to learn from the revelations of the children of divorced parents on the video. Your heart will truly ache for the truthful innocent thoughts they have shared…