“Divorce means to me, well at the beginning it meant sadness, but I found a way to live with it. I’d prefer it never happened, but it’s just a part of life.” Sophia, Children and Divorce film participant.
In Children and Divorce, we learn about divorce from a child’s perspective. Although there are common threads that run through each divorce story, each story in itself is personal and unique. All of the children interviewed in the film bring up the topic of change, but how they view change in their lives is illuminating. When we asked the children, “What has changed since the divorce?”, we had an idea of what we thought some of them would say, but were surprised to hear this positive comment from Mac,
“I’ve gotten to know a little bit more people I would say because of my step mom and my step dad and their sons and daughters and their friends. So it’s sort of been a fun experience to learn more about people and meet more people than I think I would if my parents weren’t divorced.”
Mac goes on to say, “I think that divorce has changed me as a person because I think it’s made me stronger and more emotional at the same time.” Mac’s comment inspired us at Professor Child to create an activity in our Children and Divorce workbook. In this exercise, gather some magazines, newspapers, stickers, glue, tape, scissors, markers, etc. Have your child find pictures and words that represent what “change” means to them. Make a collage using these words and pictures. You might be surprised at what you find!
“Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.” Eckhart Tolle
The effects of divorce on children can be tragic and painful. The Children and Divorce DVD and workbook by Professor Child can be purchased for $34.99.